Charm...

I've always been attracted to charming people as most of us are I would guess... almost all children have an innocent charm which makes them endearing and attracts us to them, as they grow, they lose that glow to the mundane and necessary act of growing up and becoming clones of other grown ups.

Very few people retain their innocence and those who do indeed are looked upon with disdain, pity, tolerance and are objects of ridicule. It really is quite impossible to retain that innocence, life grows us up.

Does our charm depend entirely on innocence then? Of course not, the charm of innocence has its value but the charm of a personality is quite something else. One of my favorite quotes on charm is by J. M. Barrie, who said, "Charm- It's a sort of bloom on a woman. If you have it, you don't need to have anything else; and if you don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else you have."

Well, I'd like to say that charm isn't limited to women alone, its a unisex attribute, both men and women can be and are charming. We do not place much importance to being someone who is able to make another person smile or feel good about something around them, about themselves, about the world in general. How eager we are to display our intelligence with well measured words and carefully constructed sentences aimed at exhibiting our knowledge of the world around us.

I have the opportunity of meeting many accomplished and successful people in my place of work and I love to watch the by play of human nature, its cause and effects and the many role plays that people are busy indulging in. I have to admit that irrespective of a person's education, professional capacity, designation and profile, the ones who leave an impression are those who had that something special about them, that quality which made you feel good, a lasting impression that is above and beyond the trappings that surround us.

To please someone, to be delightful has no bearing on the physical appearance of a person, I will not harp on beauty, been there and done that in one of my older posts in this blog. It would be ridiculous to think that charm is the preferential and licensed property of those in possession of good looks. Anyone can have the charisma and pizzazz... or can they...

There is a parallel argument to this too... that if you are taken up by someone's charm, you are a fool and are naive, being exploited somehow by the exhibitor of that grace and magic. You are truly strong and rooted when you are not swayed by another's magnetism and appeal, you are so self contained and mature that the fringes of another's chemistry leave you unfazed and it's a spell you dont fall under. All because you are this oh-so-smart-and-intelligent person, silliness isn't your forte.

We pass through this life, in this shape and form, just once, or so it is said! How lovely it would be if we were charming, pleasant, of cheerful disposition and made a few people smile and feel good about themselves, not paying anyone lip service in a fake manner but genuinely, from the heart... I guess we would have fewer woes and more joy if we are able to fascinate others just being charming...

Irrespective of who we are.... we are all attracted by this special quality... no matter how much we digress...

“It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious.”... Oscar Wlde.

Odious, tedious or charming warming.... a no brainer huh!